But I also love wearing dresses, heels, skinny jeans, and trying out new trends because that is who I am, and who I was long before I became his mother. I loved the outfits he picked for me, and dress like that on my own accord often. I also want my son to realize just because I am a mother it doesn’t mean I have to dress a certain way. No matter how you see her, she deserves respect.
There is a way to look at a woman without staring or gawking. And he should always take heed on how he looks at people, especially women. I also let him know what someone puts on their body isn’t an invitation, for him or anyone else, ever. If he feels like wearing something, even though none of his peers are, I want him to feel like he can. However, I want him to have the inner confidence to step out of the box if he wants. If he is comfortable dressing in a way that makes him feel like he blends in, I think that is great. I told him judging people for what they wear is very transparent, and he will be missing out on a lot in life if he is going to focus on making friends because of what they wear, what they have, or what they look like. We focus on how they make us feel, if they are kind, how they treat people. It doesn’t matter where it came from because this isn’t how we judge others. Most people wear what they are comfortable in, what makes them feel good. Regardless, I told him nobody should be judged based on how they dress - not even your very embarrassing mother. If he only knew how many women I saw throughout the day wearing suits and heels maybe he would have a different opinion.
When I asked my son why he picked this out, he said because I “blended in and didn’t look out of place.” In his mind, when I dress up, I look like I don’t belong. Sometimes I feel like dressing up more, so I do. It was different, I have not experienced anything like that before.While I dress like this about half the time and like this look, it doesn’t always suit me. He added: “It was her telling me about keeping the blindfold on, standing where I was because then she was going to go and leave the vicinity before I did. He said he had no reason to believe it was "anything else" but sex with a woman.
The man said: “I think originally she was saying about it was not practical to do it here, but I kind of insisted a bit and managed to change her mind.” He said the person who approached sounded “feminine” and gave “quite pleasant” oral sex before things progressed. He was told to go to a specific place, put on a blindfold and wait. At one point he is alleged to have sent sad-face emojis.Īnother alleged victim said he was tricked into having anal sex in a park after falling for the apparently fake profile. He added: “My reaction was I slapped this man in his face once or twice and I said 'why didn't you tell me the truth?'"Īnd, despite the alleged victim fleeing, Mr Xavier continued to pester him for a second encounter, the court heard. They met at Mr Xavier’s flat in southwest London, where the victim – who cannot be named for legal reasons – put on a blindfold before his host emerged, the court heard.Īsked how he felt when he realised mid-oral sex he was with a man, he said “pissed off”. She promised sex if he promised to wear a blindfold. The man who called police told jurors he had matched with a “good looking” woman call Anna on dating app Lovoo.